The law doesn't give a damn about fathersBy Louis De Bernières
One-sided bollocks from start to finish.
Some years ago, I was outside a pizza restaurant when a young woman turned up, pushing a pram. She was preceded by a small boy who must have been about four years old. He stopped at the door, whereupon she said: ‘Well, open the f***ing door, you little s**t.’
I think my disillusionment with the idea that there was something sacred, sublime and beautiful about mothers and motherhood began on that day.
Oh vomit. Mothers don't get custody because they're the fucking virgin Mary. They get it because they're usually the primary carers.
Shortly after, I spent some years working in a truancy centre, where we tried to give a little general education to children who had missed years at school. In many cases, it was clear that the reason for these absences had been mothers who kept them at home either because the women were lonely or because they needed the children as babysitters.
Evidence? And the presumption is that men would do better. Again, evidence?
Judges of both sexes are the kind of people who have never had to change a nappy in their lives, and don’t see why any man would want to.
Now that family (in)justice [ho ho] is under review, any male MPs with small children ought to take note of what might be done to them the moment their marriage or relationship goes wrong, as mine did two years ago.
Be done to them? It's as if men have no representation at all. What are you paying your solicitor for then?
Lest I seem misogynist, I should say that the passion you have for your children is the most powerful and overwhelming emotion you can have, and the behaviour of some mothers is entirely explicable because of this.
Sorry, "lest" didn't work there. Surely the behaviour of "some mothers" can be explained in relation to the behaviour of some fathers? But I forgot, men are always the victims
One of the reasons I became a father was that a friend of mine told me that until you have had children, you know nothing of human love. I have since found out that he was right.
Oh barf. No wonder I hated Captain Corelli and his crappy mandolin.
As I once had a girlfriend who attacked me every time she got drunk, I am not inclined to fall for any myths about the gentler sex.
That "lest" still isn't doing it for me.
British Family Law doesn’t, in short, give a damn about men. A judge in Cambridge told me that he was appalled by how often men were simply treated as sperm donors and cashpoints.
Another anecdotal generalisation. There are more: mothers use "dirty tricks" and refuse to work a full-time job just to piss off the ex.
I said to my solicitor: ‘Why can’t I just go and kidnap them back?’ But I was advised not to get involved in open warfare.
And he's surprised that the mother got primary custody?
Children are sometimes annoyed about having to live in two places at once, but that is all it is — a bit of an irritation.
I’d be mildly vexed if I was halfway through a jigsaw puzzle and had to leave it at one house to go to the other, just as I am certainly vexed when I discover that all my children’s socks have disappeared because they are at their mother’s house.
Sod the children. They'll cope. They'll be mildly fucking vexed. De Bernières was lucky to get one weekend in two.
At no point does he provide any evidence to back up the headline that the law is unfair. And all the comments pointing out that the legal system is nothing like he describes are red-arrowed, unlike:
But there's not any mention in this article of the VASTLY higher number of men who just walk away!!! and all those who play daddy when it suits them. What about THOSE children??
- shafted at every turn, Walsall UK, 10/3/2012 10:29
The usual myth propagated by the feminist lobby. The fact is that 73% of break ups are down to the mother not the father and it susually because they fancy a different bit of meat ie: selfish reasons. Melanie Phillips wrote a very good article on this very subject some time ago.
- Tommy Cockles, Liverpool, 10/3/2012 10:46 Rating 13