Why being a stay at home dad is the quickest way to kill your sex life (and can even lead wives to stray)
I just don’t think most men are cut out to be stay-at-home-dads — and the consequences when it doesn’t work out can be devastating.
While the six months I spent with Sonny were rewarding in myriad ways, not only was I bored, lonely, and depressed, but my relationship with my partner was blighted by blazing rows and bickering, my libido dwindled and our sex life became non-existent.
Most women, presumably, are
cut out to be stay-at-home mums. Of course, they never get bored, lonely or depressed — and so what if they do? There's always Pilates. Or cake.
The daily grind of feeding, changing, washing and folding started to make me feel like an exhausted housewife.
The horror, the horror.
With every snuggle suit that was hung on the line to dry, a little piece of my masculinity blew away in the wind.
But what really hammered my self-confidence was the way other men reacted when I told them I was now a stay-at-home dad.
So the biggest blow to his pride comes from the prehistoric attitudes of other men
. Colour me shocked. The headline and intro still manage to point the finger at uppity women who want to work, breast-feed, or enjoy a sex life.
The shocking truth is, being a stay-at-home dad can have a terrible effect on relationships, as divorce lawyer Vanessa Lloyd Platt has witnessed.
Incredibly, she says that divorces where the man is a full-time dad have doubled in the last five years, and now account for 10 per cent of all marital break-ups.
I'm sure the number of full-time dads has also doubled over that period.
Men are emotionally far less able to cope than women with the frustrations of full-time parenting. To men like me, who define themselves by their work, it is emasculating.
And to women who define themselves the same way? Blah blah maternal instinct blah blah gift for nurturing blah.
‘Men should only consider it if they are calm, flexible, put others first and have a very thick skin.’
This from a development psychologist, who apparently doesn't have much faith in people's ability to, you know, develop.
I’d risen to editor of men’s magazine Loaded.
Ah ha. Explains everything.
Only mugs get married in the UK and US. It's hard enough to cope with rampant female hypergamy unchecked by society in the West which indulges an entitlement pampered Princess attitude by default without unfair fembot divorce laws designed to favor the feminine imperative.
- John Smith, Hants, 3/8/2012 7:54 Rating 25