bluebellnutter wrote:
Some reports say she was even at the court for the judgement the other day. That seems a little obsessive to me.
It does happen; I'm still a little obsessed with what's happened to my ex - please don't think I'm comparing that to having your kid murdered though. I think there's a longing to find out what they are doing - after all, you've hated them for so long. First, after they've been arrested, you scour the news to find out all the information you can as to what happened. Then, there's a long build up to the trial...you hate them, but there's always the possibility that they may be innocent. Then the trial, and you find out for sure that they're guilty and have caused such disruption to your life...and the details all come out as they're reported in the press. After that, you have to wait for sentencing - more uncertainty: what will they get?
And once that's done, there's nothing more for you to ponder. There'll be no more reports in the media, no more 'how long will they get?/Are they guilty?" to think about when you lie awake at night. It leaves a gap, of something that has been a huge part of your life for the past 6 months, year, whatever. And the people who weren't so directly involved have moved on, so you don't talk to them. So there has to be some way of filling that. Maybe it's a control thing. I keep searching news sites to see if there have been updates, or re-read stories, or even see if they are going to release them (even though that's not happening for another few years and I KNOW that). Maybe I need to know that after having them affect my life so badly, that I am now in control and know what's going to happen. I talk about the incident if I bring up the subject, but I don't like people bringing up the subject to me. Hypocritical, I know, but I like to have the buffer of knowing I'm talking about it, and I can keep it at arm's length.
So it's quite possible for Denise Bulger to be the same...although take it further so as to attend further trials. It doesn't surprise me. Again, I'm not going to say I understand what it's like to have your child murdered, but I find it easier to get into the mindset of someone who's life has been turned upside down by one (or two) people.