visage wrote:
ezinra wrote:
visage wrote:
No, but if you have kids while expecting the state to pay for their upbringing then that is wrong.
It's not wrong, it's irresponsible. People do irresponsible things all the time — not just poor people. This family's irresponsibility will cost the state less than £1m in child and housing benefit. I'm sure you don't need reminding of how much the state has lost through irresponsible investment, failure to regulate the financial sector, tax breaks for the rich, pointless wars, etc.
It's quite understandable to feel exasperated at the bad choices people make. It's also important to keep a sense of proportion. It's easier to feel anger at a woman with ten children rather than towards a huge, complicated, impersonal system. But she's not the only one taking the piss.
Why cant I be angry at both?
Especially because cases like this are like a cancer for the welfare state. It makes it easy to argue that its somehow corrupt to its core - that people on benefits are shirkers, preferring to let the state pick up the tab than show personal responsibility. We know thats not the case - that cases like this are outliers - but it makes the job of those who wish to defend the welfare state against the continuous pernicious attacks in the Mail that much harder. Its poisoning the well.
My heart sinks a little when I see cases like this because the individual case is, tbh, indefensible. This isnt someone who has fallen on hard times. Its not someone who, through no fault of their own needs the safety net of the welfare state. This is someone who has wilfully decided to have kids that they know will be paid for by someone else. And its cases like this that aid and abet those who wish to dismantle the welfare state. It fails the classical liberal test of 'doing no harm'. And thats why it boils my piss.
It's probably worth pointing out that the majority of UK families are nowhere near this large, so it isn't worth anyone working themselves up over, as that is exactly what this paper wants.
Someone earlier mentioned that there is no need in a modern society with a longer life expectancy for people to have so many children, and this I agree with (mind you I have no intention of having any at all, so there you go).
They were quite right, which leads us to the question of why they do it, if it is not essental.
The ones who just claim they love children, or the weirdos who say they love been pregnant and are adicted to it don't count as they know what they are doing and how stupid it is (plus they are in the minority also).
The ones who the public get most angry about are the ones on benefits, having more than one child by more than one man.
I hate to generalise, but a lot of women in this situation are not living very happy fulfilling lives, nor are they usualy in decent happy relationships. They tend to atract a bad sort, who often doesn't make for good partner or father material.
This as I say is by no means always the case, but it happens often enough for it to be an obvious concern - one that most governments seem to ignore.
Prevention is better than cure as they say, and if more could be done to try and help some of these people and find out why they treat themselves this way, perhaps more of these men and women would have more respect for themslves in the first place.
There is always a reason why people act with so little self respect, and attacking them via the press and benefits cuts doesn't solve these problems - if anything it makes people more angry and defensive.
If people like this had better help and prospects to start with, perhaps fewer of them would end up this way?
But that involves counciling, mentoring and caring about people - not the kind of wishy washy, lefty liberal nonsense that the average mail, express or sun reader thinks will do any good. Nor do they ever want to see investment in such things in the short term, no matter what the future and long term benefits will be - if it costs money NOW, fuck it I won't pay for it! And they certainly don't like the idea of non PLU's getting any help to improve their situation, even if it benefits society in the long run.